The One Concept We All Need to Accept for a Happier Life


Best Man Speech: “I met Caleb when I was 15. I’ve been with him through a broken collar bone since he got sacked in football, when we got suspended from school for well… let’s say I got in trouble. I’ve been with him through his first heartbreak and I’ll never forget the night he told me he was going to marry Jackie. You two are made for each other, I got it Knew since I saw you together for the first time.So let’s raise a glass for Caleb and Jackie, today is a day full of happiness but remember, This too shall pass”.

can you imagine

Have you ever had the time of your life, laughing, smiling, you feel so happy and then someone says to you, “This too shall pass”? Maybe not!

That phrase is usually only used when you are going through a challenging time in your life, not something you would hear excitement from a wedding, a birthday party, a promotion… am I right?

this too shall pass is a Persian phrase that refers to the temporary nature or impermanence of anything and everything.

an early English quote from “This too shall pass” Appeared for the first time in 1848. It was also notably used in a speech by Abraham Lincoln before he became president in 1859.

this too shall pass This means that the hard things you are facing will pass, but it also means that the wonderful things you experience will also pass. In other words, impermanence

What is perpetuality?

Mortality is the state of accepting that everything is temporary. Acceptance of mortals doesn’t have to make you a Debbie Downer. The idea is that it allows you to face challenging times more easily if you can accept that life is fluid.

If you come to the conclusion that life is not permanent, nor is there anything in it (relationship, children, job, physical ability, financial status, etc.), then you are more likely to react gracefully when there is some change in your life.

May mortality give you hope that the painful moments you are facing will not last forever. It can also encourage you to work on being more present because the truth is that you, your relationships, your job, and your mental state will not always be in a permanent state of happiness and joy.

“When things go bad, remember: It won’t always be like this. Take it one day at a time. When things go well, remember: It won’t always be like this. Enjoy every great moment.” –doctor zantamata

What can you gain by learning to accept impermanence?

  1. you accept that bad things will end
  2. you accept that good things will end
  3. You accept that all feelings are fluid and won’t last forever
  4. You accept that life is dynamic, not static

When you’re happy, enjoy it! Cherish those moments and be as present as you can. When you’re hurting, feel it, accept it, learn from it, and know it won’t last forever. You never know whether your next moment will be good or bad, but what you do know is that whatever it is, it will change.

How do you accept impermanence? Well, you already have it and probably don’t even realize it. Think about the last time you had a cold or flu. you didn’t tell yourself, “Okay, that’s it. It’s been a good life. I’m dying.” Well, maybe you felt like this for a second, but really, you knew it would last 3-5 days and you would feel better again. It is to practice and accept impermanence.

Adopting mortality in my life has made me more aware and emotionally more grounded to live in the present. It also reminds me that there will be things in life that I don’t have control over, but I do have control over how to react to them.

Let’s try that best man speech again…

“I met Caleb when I was 15. I’ve been with him through a broken collar bone since he got sacked in football, when we got suspended from school for well… let’s say I got in trouble. I’ve been with him through his first heartbreak and I’ll never forget the night he told me he was going to marry Jackie. You two are made for each other, I got it Knew since I saw you together for the first time. The advice I give you today is something I learned during my journey. In my marriage and life, I have learned to embrace mortality. You will have wonderful moments together that will pass. You will have challenges that you will face, they too will pass and be replaced by happy moments again. This journey you are on together is fluid and will always be changing, embrace it! It’s all part of the ride you’re taking together. Oh, and have lots of sex! Let’s raise the glass for Caleb and Jackie!”