If you listen carefully, all are gurus. Some agree with this, while others are more skeptical. But, what most of us (usually) learn the hard way, is that when given a lesson, we rely on ourselves to learn from it. Otherwise, this lesson will continue to be shown again. and then. and then.
Option number one is to realize the problem and learn from it and move on.
Option number two is to ignore the problem, so that it slows us down, destroys parts of our journey, and even derails our goals and aspirations.
The thing that always attracted me to me was the cool people. I’m not talking about the quiet type that most of us know very well. These are just normal victims who try to escape from their goons through their silence, distance or passive mindset.
I am talking about people who remain calm in all adversity and stand up in any storm – a rare, admirable, extraordinary type. They know who they are and don’t need, ask or expect any validation of their worth. They will also suffer silently and patiently. For better or worse, they have infinite inner strength to endure everything.
Through a variety of enriching experiences (piano, boxing, math, military, business), I met and supported men and women of high caliber who inspired me to have this powerful mindset.
However, my first inspiration was not from a human. It came from the largest creature in the country.
When I was a little boy, my country banned circus shows with wild animals. But before that, different kinds of mighty lions, beautiful tigers, exotic birds, skilled monkeys and others used to parade in our city.
Elephants were by far my favorite.
At the time, I did not know that these were wild animals and was fascinated for our “entertainment”.
Even though I was still very young, I’ll never forget it when a cast tripped over, and Elephant stopped his choreography. The animal’s response was not mechanical; It was real care to protect the little man under his giant foot.
I felt awe for this wonderful creature. An important note of the story, at the time I was not even aware that in some cases – if not most – animals were tortured to perform their dances and “shows” for us.
Growing up, I read more about elephants, and here are some excerpts from these great giants.
What elephants taught me over the years:
1. Elephant in chair
Common story Infopreneurs or coaches use the “elephant in the chair” to persuade you to buy their products. And there’s a good reason for that. Everyone loves stories that they can empathize with and understand deep within themselves.
For those unfamiliar with it, when elephant calves are born in “farms” (this is still a thing for some countries), their feet are tied with heavy chains and spikes near their ankles. As the child is full of energy and curiosity – perhaps even rebellion – he tries to break his chains.
After several futile attempts, it only injures itself. Sometimes after many attempts and injuries, the child gives up. Growing up, these elephants are tied with thin ropes. Of course, these ropes are useless for keeping.
However, these ropes are a reminder of all the pain and suffering they went through as a child. Back when they tried and failed and suffered from trying to break free.
So, this story inspired me on my personal ropes. Most of us grew up trying some of the things we failed at. Personally – maybe you too – there were cases when I failed miserably. more time.
And then, I stopped trying. After years of personal growth (and many more setbacks, to be honest), I’ve re-attempted many things that my younger self had marked as impossible and painful.
And one after the other, I conquered a few. And some others are in progress as I write this excerpt.
2. The trunk of an elephant is a crazy gadget
It may sound silly to some who will read it, but their trunk amazes me. As a youth, I thought they only drink its water. I also portrayed this as a major loss; How can they defend themselves from predators with that thing?
Later, I learned that his trunk is an invaluable multitool.
This is a hook.
This is a hand.
This is a hose.
It’s also a snorkel when they swim.
I am sure that in the future, scientists will discover more about its trunk, as it contains about 150,000 muscle units.
That’s why elephants are making full use of their trunk. good for them. What is good for us is the feeling that we should be using every part of us – made of stardust or not – to our advantage.
One will probably receive a breathtaking beauty at birth. If that trait would lead to a narcissistic mindset and behavior, then beauty is a huge loss.
On the other hand, I think most of us have at least once met some wonderful boy/girl who may not be born with the right characteristics but will charm you with his character and ability.
I give my hat to all of you ladies and gentlemen.
3. Elephants Communicate in Many Ways
There are times when we want to say more. And maybe our silence – or freeze – said more than we should have. I’m sure there are people in your office or groups you love to be with, and others you don’t.
Elephants may not work in offices, but like us, they communicate in many ways. The main difference is that they seem to control most (if not all) of their messages. In addition to sounds, they also use body language, touch and smell. Although they have thick skin (about 2.5 cm) through their bones, they can detect and communicate through seismic signals.
A few years back I was a sales intern in a big company. I was in sales before, but this time it felt new in many ways. What matters to our story is that in my first few weeks doing business trips, some of my clients imagined me as a discount boy. If there was a bundle going on, they greeted me and started writing down my proposals. If I didn’t have a special price or discount, well… pat me on the shoulder and they’re back on their busy schedule.
how did i change it?
First, I gathered as much information about the market as I could. I started watching people to understand the trend. I talked to everyone. I asked many questions. And, what matters most, I listened.
Second, I used all of my available tools (market trends, character, experience, but most important, a positive mindset), and revisited these discount-or-leave customers with a different perspective.
Before my sales days, I read that 90% of the message is not in your actual words. It was a lesson that I had to learn eventually.
So, I made some suggestions.
I gave them some explanations.
And then, I got sales I didn’t expect.
During my stint as an intern, I kept a few success stories under my belt. Most of them were from clients that on my initial 2-3 visits, I said to myself, “I’m never going to see this guy again”.
However, with a different mindset, I figured out how to add value and build win-win relationships. I didn’t change the market or create a phenomenal product. I didn’t invent the wheel or discover any marketing secrets.
I simply changed the way I communicated with them (both verbal and non-verbal). And that’s all I had to do.
4. Their heart is big in both ways
I will be brief on this.
Elephants live in packs.
They support their elders and value their intelligence.
They respect death.
They try to help (we’ve seen them call for help on other dead animals, even predators).
We have many stories where he showed compassion, kindness and altruism.
There is no need to stress too much on this.
5. Elephants eat all day long
OK, jokes on me on this one. But elephants spend 16 hours a day filling their stomachs and meeting their huge energy needs.
Be like an elephant.
Maybe not necessarily thick-skinned, with remarkable memory capacity, or use dirt as a sunscreen (they really do).
But of course, treat yourself right, meet all your needs, and be kind, regardless of your strengths.