We live in an increasingly fragmented, digitally focused world. This makes it challenging to build a real relationship with your partner in the offline world. Other things can also get in the way of spending time with each other – kids, money worries, lack of time, or feeling like you can’t think of anything to do together. With so many obligations, should you really make time for a regular date night?
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Why is date night important?
Why bother extending your day to find time for date night with your partner? There are many reasons!
- According to the National Marriage Project, couples with frequent date nights are 3.5 times more likely to classify their relationships as “very happy” than those who don’t have regular date nights with their partners.
- It’s not just about the fun – regular date nights improve communication and increase the intimacy within your relationship, leading to a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction.
- As the National Marriage Project reports, making time for regular date nights can have a positive, lasting effect on your relationship, including reducing stress and tension.
- According to The Couples Center, couples who invest in regular date nights report better sexual satisfaction than those who don’t (3.3 times for men and 3.5 times for women!).
Looks great, doesn’t it? But here’s the catch – what makes a great date night? Another Netflix marathon with microwave popcorn? There’s so much more!
What Makes a Great Date Night?
What makes a great date night? Everyone has their own idea, at least to some degree, but there are certain things that apply across the board. The best date experiences focus on allowing you and your partner to have fun, laugh, and grow together.
Looks expensive, huh? It doesn’t have to be! It also doesn’t need to be extravagant and requires hours and hours of planning in your already time-hungry week. You don’t even need to go out! A home date night can provide you with the quality time you deserve together. The best date night ideas are simple, fun, and give you the chance to experience quality time together as a couple.
In the end, you have to break out of your normal routine. You want to have a memorable night, and that means doing something other than coming home and sitting on the couch together watching TV shows that one of you hates.
5 things you can do today to plan date night like a boss
Planning the perfect date night with your partner can seem daunting, but it doesn’t have to be. All it takes is a little creativity and a little initiative. You’ve felt the need to break out of the rut, so you’ve already taken the first step! Here are five things you can do today to level up your date nights.
1. Research Your Options and Get Creative
Let your creative juices flow! One of the most challenging things about date night is figuring out what the two of you can do together. Thankfully, inspiration is abundant if you know where to look. So, where could that be?
- Explore social media for ideas – Pinterest can be a great resource here.
- A quick Google search can also yield some very interesting results.
Resist the urge to complicate things. Sure, a tropical dance party with tiki torches and a limbo bar would be fun, but you don’t always have to go big to have a memorable night out with each other.
2. Forget the Plan
OK, so maybe don’t forget the whole plan, but chances are good that your relationship can do something with ease. The best date nights create unforgettable moments, and they are the ones that don’t go as planned until the Nth degree.
Don’t be afraid to feather it a little. Be flexible and think outside the box. You may be surprised at the increase in both interaction and intimacy with your partner.
3. Now is the Time
Why wait for date night? What could be a better time than now? Too often, we get caught up in our own assumptions about what “date night” means. First, it doesn’t have to be at night – what’s wrong with a date lunch? Ever consider a romantic breakfast?
Even if you and your spouse both have busy schedules, you can find random times of day to add to and fuel that romantic fire. You don’t have to “go out” during your time together. Having an amazing date night at home has never been easier.
4. Fancy, schmancy!
Sure, you want things to be okay. You have a preconceived idea that date night should include nice clothes, a fancy restaurant, flowers and all that. Here’s a tip – just skip the fantasy in favor of being with each other and having a blast.
Use the tips we’ve already covered to plan an awesome date night that doesn’t cost a fortune, requires you to leave the house, or forces you to make reservations.
5. Laughter Heals the Spirit
Lastly, make sure you find time to laugh together. Yes, a delicious dinner at a top restaurant can be fun. However, it has nothing to do with the experience of laughing so loudly with your partner that both of you have to wipe the tears from your eyes.
Laughter is incredibly healing. It bridges the gap and brings us closer. It is also an incredible way to build intimacy between partners. So, be a fool. Tell that terrible sentence. get silly. Sometimes those experiences can be more romantic than anything else.
cheers to your date night
Investing in date nights is more important to your relationship than you might think. It strengthens your bond with your partner. It also helps keep things interesting and can be a great way to prevent getting stuck in a rut (or getting out of the rut you’re currently stuck in). Date night doesn’t require big cash outlays, weeks of planning, or even putting on pants if you don’t want to (though, we highly recommend the pants if you’re leaving the house) .
Take the first step today. Start planning a great date night for yourself and your partner. Your relationship will thank you.
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