“You can’t force someone to value, respect, understand or support you, but you can choose to spend your time around people who do.” ~ Lori Deschan
It can be paralyzed.
I mean worry about what other people think of you. This worry can prevent you from chasing your dreams. This can prevent you from expressing your true nature and put you in the way of the life you want to make so badly.
This anxiety can easily cause your mind to wander into dark places and trigger feelings of insecurity, anxiety and self-doubt. When you have a grip on it, you do anything to avoid rejection, ridicule and possible embarrassment. Better to ignore than to judge negatively, isn’t it?
You know that you should not worry about what others think of you. But it is easier said than done.
For a long time, I stuck because I was afraid of other people’s opinions. Because of this fear, I was terrified of creating a new career path. Eventually, I reached a point where I couldn’t take it anymore.
I knew that I would have to deal with the fear and anxiety of other people’s decisions, or that I would not be able to live the life I wanted. And I was not willing to compromise on that – neither you.
To help you overcome the fear of other people’s opinions, I have prepared a list of ideas that have helped me. Whenever you use your concern about who among you considers your people’s opinion to be the best.
1. Know that you are not a mind reader.
I thought i already knew What did other people think of me. But perceptions often lead to bad results.
When I quit my corporate job to travel and pursue my entrepreneurial endeavor, I was in awe of former colleagues looking at my decision. I felt that they would see me as naive, careless or stupid to make a decision.
Turns out I couldn’t be more wrong. Over the following months and years, many of them became my biggest supporters! Some said that I was too brave to walk my path, others opened up about my desires to do something similar. Here’s the taker: You never know what people think of you until you give them a chance to speak.
2. Understand that it is never about you.
This has been a game-changer for me! Hear this: Another person’s decision about you is never about you – it’s about them. It is a reflection of their fears, limitations and perceptions.
One of the closest people in my life told me that I was making the mistake of quitting my corporate job to start my own business.
At first, I felt that he judged me and did not support my decision. Later, I realized that his reaction was a mirror Their Faith, fear, and view on the world. For her, being in a corporate job meant safety, security and a good life.
When I realized that I always had my best interest at heart, I felt nothing but compassion and love for her. To make sure you navigate your options correctly, ask yourself: what do I am Want? What is right for me to do?
3. Stop assessing yourself.
Many times, we get so weird about ourselves that we feel weird about ourselves to confirm our beliefs to others. Therefore, the decisions we fear from others are actually reflections of what we decide for ourselves. Sneaky, okay?
Be honest with yourself, what do you judge for yourself? It may be related to your health, career, relationship status, living situation or look. Then ask yourself why you value yourself for this. Is Faith driving the Judgment? Do you believe that it is wrong to prioritize career over family? Do you believe that being the center of attention is bad?
Once you challenge these beliefs and stop judging yourself, you will be able to make peace with who you are, and the choices you make, good and bad. Once you accept, you will not be afraid of the judgment of others because you Stand behind you
4. Stop judging others.
The more we judge others, the more we believe that they judge us. It is a vicious cycle. Therefore, instead of judging others for their choice, character, religious views, ways of wearing clothes or anything else, choose to be curious about differences and diversity.
Ask yourself what you can learn from this person? Why is this person in a certain way? There may be reasons for this. As Wayne Dyer said, “When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself.. “
5. Use your concern as a guide.
What is it that you worry about that other people will do justice to you? Perhaps it is your job status, living situation, relationship status, insecurity, feeling, or intelligence. This concern tells you that there is either something that you need to accept or that you want to change, make peace with it.
For example, perhaps you can adopt a new career path, which feels more aligned with your values. Or maybe you can see your situation today as a stepping stone to something better. When you approve yourself and your life, other people’s opinions don’t matter that much.
6. Expect feedback from others.
Instead of trying to avoid taking reactions from others, expect them! If you try a new plant-based diet, change career paths, or decide on that crappy hobby of all, expect people to say something about it. And take it as a good sign because it means that you are doing what is right for you, even if people will have an opinion about it.
As Aristotle said, “There is only one way to avoid criticism: don’t do anything, don’t say anything, and don’t be anything. “And that’s not you, is it? You are here to stay fully, follow what makes you excited, and be the incredible person that you are.
7. Focus on long term happiness.
Judgment and criticism from others can hurt. But it will never regret it. Do you know what most people regret their death? this: “I wish I would have dared to accept life as true to myself, not to others who expected life.“
Be prepared to take decisions and criticism in the short term, instead of what you will do for the long term. Focus on living life on yourself, not on the life that other people expect of you.
8. Own acceptance.
Admitting to yourself this is what comes down, right? Once you approve yourself, you stop worrying about other people’s opinions. You have an acceptance that matters the most: your own.
Look at your flaws, flaws and the choices you wish you had made differently and accept it. Know that you are enough Know that you have done the best job from where you once were. We all want you to be the person who is there for you – including quarrels, faults and flaws.
Living with the concern that others will judge you is difficult. It can keep you stuck, crippled and apart from wanting to live life.
It is time to take back your power. Use this list, choose one or two points that resonate, and practice them. Then, once ready, return to the list and choose another point.
Stop living according to other people’s expectations and accept life as true to yourself.
Now, go out and show the world what you are made of. We are waiting impatiently.