We’ve all been there at this point where the overwhelming feeling is so intense that we can’t even think or act. I’m talking about the moment where you can’t. You are done.’ You feel stuck, sad and hopeless. You would scream, but if only you had the strength!
I know, I’ve been there too. I remember vividly, I lay on the floor staring at the green walls of this apartment, crying silently, feeling hopeless, all the while wishing I could see the light at the end of the tunnel. But “where is the tunnel then?”.
This is not a good place to live at all. But at the same time, it is perfect as it is. Have you seen what happens after a major breakdown? When we decide to get out of it, there is a breakthrough. And I love success. They help us move forward in life, usually more thoughtfully and more meaningfully. Success helps us to look beyond our limits and encourages us to go through obstacles that we sometimes don’t even realize. Breakthroughs are insightful and liberating. But how did we get there from the breakdown? The answer is right below.
1. Quit Whatever You’re Doing
Stopping and quitting whatever you’re doing is probably the most important step because a breakdown usually comes after a series of non-stop, forced actions. We work so hard and go so deep without taking the necessary rest that eventually, we reach a point where we can’t move forward, or it’s too painful to continue. So, what you should be doing right now is to just stop and take a breath. Give yourself some time to recuperate and adjust the timing for the following steps.
2. Shout, Shout, Let It Out
When was the last time you let it out? How many emotions are you bottling up? Now is the time to let the feelings come to you, really feel them and then let them go. If you haven’t cried in a while, let the tears fall. If the scream is desperate to get out, scream. Remember: You are human, and feeling is as normal as breathing. So, feel whatever you need to feel and then let it go. You deserve this time to process your feelings, and it’s essential to your mental health that you do.
“There is no success without breaking up.” – Tony Robbins
3. Center Yourself
After all the release from Step 2, you’ll need a tool to help you center yourself and reorient your energy. My go-to, in this case, is attention. It can be as simple as sitting in silence, with your back straight, eyes closed, and breathing in and out slowly. Focus on your breathing and let go of any thoughts as they come, without attaching them to them. This simple meditation will help you to be more present and stop the common spiral of thoughts that comes with breaking up.
4. Re-evaluate the situation
If you’ve completed the previous steps, I’m pretty sure you can think more clearly now, and you should feel a lot better. If you don’t, don’t worry. Know that this process takes time depending on the person and the situation. so maybe give yourself more time and
Whenever you’re ready, start reevaluating.
The reassessment process is when you sit down with your thoughts, a pen, a piece of paper, and objectively reevaluate what it took to break through. Here, you’ll detail what happened, what role you played in it, and what you learned from the situation. You have to write everything down, so that you can see what happened “from the outside” and read it whenever you want.
A breakthrough can happen anywhere between steps one and four, but what is a success without some action? That is why it is important to make an action plan.
5. Create an Action Plan for the Future
Now that you’ve gone through all the steps, it’s time to take advantage of the insights you’ve gained and act on them. To do this, I encourage you to take a few minutes to read the following questions one by one and think about the answers.
What did you uncover in the process? What would you like to do differently? What new steps are you taking to prevent this from happening again? What is the goal of having all this information with you now? What do you need to do today to achieve this goal? What can get in the way of what you want to achieve? How will you stay on track?
By answering these questions, you have all the information you need to prepare your action plan.
Remember: Having a breakdown can be an opportunity to reestablish, reevaluate, and rearrange our lives. All we have to do is create space for this to happen, and that will involve some inner work followed by a pressure break and deliberate action in our busy lives. Although it’s easy, I realize how difficult it might sound right now, but I promise it’s worth it. And if you’re worried about productivity, wait until you’re back in business. You will be amazed!
I would also like to say take your time. This process can be done all at once, or you may need weeks to process everything. The secret here is not to force or rush it and let it happen.
Give yourself the opportunity, time and space to accomplish this.