Imagine that your inspiration is a person.
And to inspire you, they whisper in your ears, they think they will modify you and make you productive:
- “can you do this!
- “Way to be!”
- “keep at it!”
These are very specific things when it comes to motivating yourself. But you’ve been surprised … is there any “positivity” that actually works?
I have been in the world of self-improvement for 14 years, and I have tried to do all this. And if I’m being honest … positivity hasn’t done much for me.
This temporarily maintains my motivation for more than a few jovial minutes, beyond temporarily realizing that I am doing something worthwhile. After which, it stops and I come back to square one. If I am lucky, I have gained enough momentum to carry me through my task.
But more and more often, positivity just dies and it is purely willpower and discipline to pursue me. And I don’t need to tell you how annoying it is to fall back on those things.
So does it make sense to continue with such a “motivational” strategy? After all, this is a popular and well received strategy, so you should force it to work, right? I got to say, I don’t think so. Because no matter how popular, or how much you “want to work” is an idea … If a motivational strategy hasn’t outgrown any of your goals, there’s only one thing with it – leave it.
I know it’s the opposite of what people online say … but if it doesn’t work for you, it doesn’t work. So I’m going to do you a solid – the following are inspiring insights that are slightly off the beaten path, and many people won’t like or agree with them. But since you’ve overcome it, I’m in danger that they may be able to recover to your street.
1. The universe is unfair and doesn’t care about your success
A hard pill to swallow, but very easy to confirm. Off the top of your head, tell me a few things about your life that you want to change – I’ll go first:
1. I wish I was in better shape
2. I wish I made more money
3. I wish I was more charismatic
And so on and so on. Honestly, I barely needed to think about those three. But from the fact that I no longer have those things, and to get them will require work, time and patience… it is clear that the universe (which I have not found favor with luck or talent, has achieved) To do. Without hard work and luck) is probably not so much about me.
And as much as I hate to say it, it probably treats you (and everyone else in existence) with the same relationship. Although some are lucky and born with the money, looks, or ability … I would put big money that even those people lack at least one thing in life, and that they It is also hard to get.
(After all, money cannot buy everything. It seems that it cannot attract everyone. And talent does not guarantee success)
2. Necessity drives the world (and not love, happiness or greed)
If you have ever wondered what the ultimate motivation is, this is your answer.
People are ready to do something in life only if they want to do it. So basically, if a person’s life is on the line, or if they have a livelihood at stake (meaning their income, social life, or lifestyle in general) … then only they will get motivation to work.
A person can act with love. But only because they are not afraid of finding their love in their life. A person can act to obtain the source of happiness. But only because they are afraid of being unhappy at first. And a person can act to satisfy, let’s say, a financial greed. But only because they are afraid of not having money in the first place (or even fearing a lack of money).
Now, before you say “I disagree!” Alarm, you probably want to read the next insight as well.
3. People are rarely motivated to work on their goals because they feel they can “get away with it.”
Think about the common recurring conditions in life:
- A person chooses Netflix when going to the gym
- A person chooses junk food food over a healthy breakfast.
- A person stays up late on YouTube for a good night’s sleep
These things survive all the time and for every person. But consider this – if it costs you $ 100 each time you choose Netflix at the gym, do you think you’ll still choose Netflix?
Or if eating junk food immediately adds 15 (highly visible) pounds to your stomach, would you still eat that junk food on healthy food?
no, not at all. But the problem is that none of these things happen when you make bad decisions. There are no immediate consequences for these actions, and worse, the human instinct is given the opportunity to do the easiest, most satisfying thing possible. So we are “already” leaning towards the worst possible option in the first place.
Now, after considering all these ideas, isn’t it weird that most people use positivity (and other popular motivation methods) when people aren’t specifically designed for it? After all, “I can do it!” Doesn’t make much sense after a long, hard day at work and your mood is on Rock Bottom. No amount of positivity will ever change.
A very strong method is finding small, acceptable ways to “punish” yourself for choosing bad actions over good ones. Imagine “really” losing cash every time you watch Netflix … who wouldn’t add enough sting to keep you from indulging? Get a spouse or a family member and do so. Whenever you were getting lazy, you could still record them and upload them on social media with a caption, which hurts your reputation. Even if it is done in a non-serious way, who would want to see him as a lazy person? Just thought about it has more power than if people actually cared about it (which they probably don’t).
But still, there is power in these “small” punishments. And since people hate the money taken from them and don’t want to be judged for “low integrity” tricks (such as being seen as lazy or other undesirable traits) … you get the direction of motivation and productivity I would go a long way if you started there.
I have always had experience with this method. And even better, I am FAR more productive, motivated and able to achieve my goals because of it. And I think it will be exactly the same for you.
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