2 Ways to Stop Your Negative Thoughts From Sucking the Life Out of You

One of the greatest strengths we have is our ability to think. Yes, sometimes those thoughts become negative or harmful and they don’t serve us, but sometimes those thoughts are empowering and can take us anywhere. But have you ever asked yourself where do your thoughts come from?

Most of our thoughts are self-made; In other words, they come from us. We can learn something or hear something or see something, but whatever happens after that is all made by you. Understanding why this is so important is because your thoughts are your greatest superpowers, and you have the ability to make them your trusted advisor rather than your biggest critic.

If you are the author of most of your ideas, this gives you the power to create ideas that serve you… if you choose to. Thoughts are choices, and the choices we make determine how we feel, how we feel, what we do in life, what we don’t do in life, are we healthy, what We are not healthy, and do we give some things a try or never try.

Those choices are important elements to our confidence, our self-esteem, and our self-worth. Others don’t make any of these things for us. sometimes! We make it everything, and if your life isn’t where you want it to be, you can start to make it different by using that superpower in ways that serve you.

start with self-awareness

Example 1:

Do you have thoughts in your head that contradict what people have told you over the years? For example, maybe you are a good artist and over the years people have told you that you are a really good painter or that you paint very well. But when they say, “You’re a really good artist,” your response is always, “Really? You think so?” or “No, I’m not that good.”

What you are thinking or choosing to believe is the exact opposite of what everyone else is telling you. This is a problem. If you hear a lot of people saying that you’re good at something (especially when they don’t have to), start believing them instead of your dismissive thoughts.

Example #2:

Do you have thoughts about something that someone once said to you, years ago, that you have spent many years telling yourself over and over again? For example, maybe you were at a business event and you were stuck and a coworker said, “You’re such a klutz.” From that day on, you got extra super careful because you were so embarrassed by tripping that you accepted that one thing a coworker said in a moment when it was probably true for a second, but you’ve been so Be careful and alert because you’re constantly reminding yourself, “Don’t be klutz. Don’t fall down or trip. Don’t embarrass yourself.”

It was a once-in-a-lifetime event that you could momentarily laugh and say, “Yeah, gravity’s really strong there!” Chances are, everyone will have forgotten it as the conversation moves to the next topic. Instead, it was a choice to take on the identity of a klutz for years after the incident, and it has continued to influence your behavior, making you uncomfortable in business situations.

“Your beliefs, positive or negative, helpful or harmful, largely determine everything you do and how you do it.” – Brian Tracy

The first step to harnessing this superpower is to get the trash out of your head.

Sit down and do an idea list. This is the time to distort your thoughts, just as you would in a warehouse full of rubbish. Start really paying attention to your thoughts today. Which ones are recurring? Write them down and make a list. When you start noticing thoughts popping up in your head on a regular basis, ask yourself, “Where did those thoughts come from?”

Purify as soon as you discover ideas during your excavation that are completely made up and have zero validity. How do you do that? Use these two tools:

Tool #1 – Accept that it’s not real.

Say out loud to yourself, “That’s a ridiculous idea, because it’s not true!”

Just admit to yourself that it’s not real; It is completely made up and a lie. Remind yourself that the reason you keep having that thought over and over again is because you have formed a habit. The more you tell yourself, “That’s not true,” when the thought pops up, the faster it goes away because you’ve replaced it with something that stops it in its tracks.

This doesn’t mean that you have to get all Pollyanna about your life, but rather be more balanced with your thoughts. Chances are, if you’re a negative self-talker or a negative thinker, you never give yourself the full story; You only give yourself half the story. I call it a ‘partly cloudy, partly sunny outlook’. When a weather forecaster says that it will be partly cloudy, she is also saying that it will be partly sunny because, for one or the other to occur, both have to be present! If you’re a pessimist or negative thinker, you’ll always see the partially cloudy side of everything (“yes, but…”) and you’ll miss the fact that it’s also partially sunny.

People who are highly positive thinkers have the same problem, as they like to see everything as partly sunny and partly cloudy, which sometimes poses challenges. is. But negative thinking is often more harmful than positive thinking, so we’ll stick to the topic. You are allowed to continue to choose the partly cloudy side, though get used to looking at the partly sunny side. If you only have half the story, you don’t have a story.

It simply means that every time you complain about something or think ‘this can’t happen’, turn to the other side and look at the whole picture thinking, ‘If it can happen, how is it? Will you see?’ or ‘Maybe it can’t, but maybe it can.’ Give yourself a chance to see the other side of possibilities or negative thoughts, as it always is! There is always another side. Using this tool will help you get out of the hole of negative thinking very fast.

You are the author of your thoughts.

Just because you have an idea doesn’t mean you have to hear or believe it. Who you choose to listen to and trust is your choice. As the author of your thoughts, you can choose which ideas you are going to keep and which you are going to edit. You will never get positive results in your life by listening to too many negative, fabricated or untrue thoughts. However, getting in the habit of looking at both sides, and choosing which thoughts are keepers and which ones are trash, is up to you and it will change your life.